Change my blog outlook. Nothing special and nice but at least more space for my viewer's eyes. Soothing,plain and sweet. Well, sometimes simple is the best. Hee Hee.

Attended a marriage counselling course this Saturday with darling. It has one group session with 5 other pairs of couples. There will be two other individual sessions for each couple some time later. Our group session lasts from 9.30am - 5pm. It was a really rewarding session. We played games, shared opinions, hold discussions, learnt some new knowledge and wrote lots of "tiny love letters" to each other. *sweet smile*. The counsellor shares with us a lot of tiny clips from movies that has touching meanings behind it. One movie called "A story of us" features this couple's marriage life from passionate courtship to pathetic divorce. But still, they got back together. There is this meaningful statement that the counsellor in this show spoke.

"When you get married, there are six of you sharing a bed, not two."

Naturally, you know who are the other four, right? Marriage isn't always a bed of roses. We should get along well with our in-laws but still, draw boundaries with them.

We also did a tiny test on what kind of love language do we use to express our love to our partner. By knowing this, we can know our partners better. Nick's love language is "physical touch" while mine is "quality time". I overheard several guys have the same love language as him too.I never thought my love language is this until i did the test. I really love interactive sessions like these. Through these, i know myself better and i can see my darling really cares for me a lot.

Our counsellor also asked us what issues we like to solve. Nick say "differences" and another guy wants to know if he is compatible with his girlfriend. Yes, i think one big issue about Nick and me is tackling our differences and i actually wonder if we are compatible too. Our counsellor told us that if we want to be a better person after being with our partner, that is compability. Surprisingly, my darling told me this same statement before! With that, it struck me as i realise how much effort he has put in to make our relationship works, and how taken for granted i am. :(

We also did a girls only and boys only discussion on "how we communicate". I guess if Phyllis is here with me, she will get all the answers correct!! All the answers written is what Phyllis told me before. No wonder my darling always have headaches when talking to me. Because i did not know how to give him time to focus and process my forever-going-questions. :P


At the end of the whole session,our counsellor called each of us to choose a card for memorial. I choose a card which is about willing to change and darling choose one which is to let go of his past. This will be our goals. Now, we discussed our future with more hopes. I am really glad this session open us up. :)

I am definitely looking forward for my other two individual sessions.

I think he has spoilt me...he always gave in to me....always accomodate to my schedule....and now, he starts to insist on his own ways and we started to quarrel. He do everything for us i know. But i really don't like it when he says how miserable he is and the difficulties he met and always like me to do it with him. Am i a heartless freak? Am i bullying him? Am i too strong-headed when i don't like him to rely on me that much? Or is he too sticky to me?

God...i really don't know...i argued with him a lot these days...
He thinks that i care for friends more than him...
I told him i need freedom and i need to always hang out with friends...

I don't know..Is he holding on to me too tight?? Sometimes, i think i am so inconsiderate and will give in to him when a third party reminded me. Am i a spoilt brat now???

It's time

It's time to change my career path. Have been having disappointments in my working place and decided more that I should move on. Has been focusing more on my assignment now and soon, i will focus on searching my new opportunity out there.

Things happened around me. I felt that life is really in our hands. It's true that we will get ourselves into situations that may burnt us at times. Friends are often there to warn you and try to pull out of the situation. But at times, you may choose to let go of your friend and still buldge in for a try. For a try as there may be a new world out there? As there may be a change to our life? Soon, we may either get ourselves burnt or escaped and became stronger. Friends that are truly yours will stay at the other end of the fire to support you. Encouragment and love will be showered on you. But first, you need to admit that you are down with fire. You have to admit that you are hurt. You have to trust your friend to hold your hand and her advice will helps you heal. if you don't, you may apply the wrong medicine on your wounds and it may hurt you more.

My beloved friends, you know who you are, i hope you have the courage to come to the light of truth. Self-denial and self-reassurance in the wrong way can blind us.

Love is the next big SIN besides being the slave for money.